Today was Raul's graveside service and burial. My mom read an introduction/told stories about Raul, my dad and brother in law read poems, my sister read an excerpt from the Velveteen rabbit, one of my grandmothers spoke, and I read a poem during the butterfly release. I had chosen the poems and excerpt before Raul's Minnesota service, and we used them for both services. We also showed his memorial video back at our house after the service.
We got lucky to have a beautiful sunny day, as the forecast had been showing the possibility of rain/thunder as recently as late yesterday. We had been hoping for a fire engine red casket, but based on the catalog photo we thought it might be a darker red. We were very happy to arrive and find a bright fire engine red casket! On Friday we had also dropped off a truck blanket, little lovey blanket, and a few trucks to go in Raul's casket.
Because it is Memorial Day weekend, the cemetery had placed special flags on all the graves for firefighters, and this morning the man who runs the cemetery placed one by Raul's grave as well. We were very touched when we arrived to find this. Raul would be pleased, as he is buried in a cemetery with many firefighters!
"To
the living, I am gone.
To the sorrowful, I will never return.
To the angry, I was cheated,
But to the happy, I am at peace,
And to the faithful, I have never left.
I cannot be seen, but I can be heard.
So as you stand upon a shore, gazing at a beautiful sea – remember me.
As you look in awe at a mighty forest and its grand majesty – remember me.
As you look upon a flower and admire its simplicity – remember me.
Remember me in your heart, your thoughts, your memories of the times we loved,
the times we cried, the times we fought, the times we laughed.
For if you always think of me, I will never be gone."
Margaret Mead
"Don't think of him as gone away
his journey's just begun,
life holds so many facets
this earth is only one.
Just think of him as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.
Think how he must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.
And think of him as living
in the hearts of those he touched...
for nothing loved is ever lost
and he was loved so much."
Ellen
Brenneman
“The Skin Horse had lived longer in the nursery than any of the others. He was
so old that his brown coat was bald in patches and showed the seams underneath,
and most of the hairs in his tail had been pulled out to string bead necklaces.
He was wise, for he had seen a long succession of mechanical toys arrive to
boast and swagger, and by-and-by break their mainsprings and pass away, and he
knew that they were only toys, and would never turn into anything else. For
nursery magic is very strange and wonderful, and only those playthings that are
old and wise and experienced like the Skin Horse understand all about it.
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side
by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does
it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a
thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not
just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful.
"When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or
bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You
become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who
break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally,
by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes
drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things
don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to
people who don't understand."
"I suppose you are real?" said the Rabbit. And then he wished he had
not said it, for he thought the Skin Horse might be sensitive. But the Skin
Horse only smiled.
"The Boy's Uncle made me Real," he said. "That was a great many
years ago; but once you are Real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for
always.'"
